Flowers, Candy and Chaos
When your heart meets your head
By Christina Ipavec, Staff Writer
April 16, 2008 | noon
The decision to trust your head or your heart can be a difficult one, for sure. However, it becomes easier when both are finally leading you in the right direction.
Before I began writing this article, I had some serious writer's block; I had no idea what to say that would be important enough to write about. After exercising at the gym, I found my answer: I would go out! So I accepted an invitation to this guy Scott's apartment to play cards with him and his friends, and off I went.
Playing card games was actually a good time. We played "Asshole," a fitting name for the previous relationship between Scott and me, as well as for how it ended.
We had been dating a few months last spring and summer, during which we spent half the time fighting with each other. Finally after another attempt by Scott to royally piss me off (we went to see "Spiderman 3" with two friends of mine, and he decided to get absolutely hammered before I picked him up to go to the theater), I broke it off. His behavior was completely immature and unacceptable. After an unfortunate accident he caused for himself (which involved breaking bones) and much interference from his mother in our relationship, it was clear that we would not be getting back together.
After the card game had ended the friends left, and it was just Scott and me (oh, and the elephant in the room named you-think-I-was-a-dick-for-leaving-you-but-your-mother-wanted-me-to-marry-you). It was extremely uncomfortable, so much that I would compare the experience to a urinary tract infection: anxious, irritating and persistent. After a long talk he revealed that he wanted to get back together with me, and then proceeded to become very physically forward (almost assaulting my mouth). Apparently now that "Asshole" was finished, Scott wanted to play a new game. It was called "Try to get the girl into bed" (no joke, he confessed that was his intention).
When I had figured out the name of the game, I realized I did not want to play. My head and my heart were screaming, "NO!" I realized that not only am I no longer attracted to Scott, but I am really a good girl, and I know when to say "no." I also seem to have substantial feelings for the man I am currently "talking to," though I am not very concerned with sliding head-first into a relationship with him immediately. For now, I just like how things are going between us, and I am just following my heart.
With that said, I feel it in my heart (and my head) that this man is really amazing. He is friendly, motivated, and he knows how to make me smile. We actually have a lot in common, too. We both like to watch South Park (I know it sounds juvenile, but it is a funny show and it makes me laugh). We both love palm trees and warm weather. Furthermore, we both have blond hair (usually, I tend not to find blond men attractive).
My point is that for once, my heart and my head are in sync. The other night at Scott's place, my head told me to leave because I have morals, and I am also at a different point in my life. My heart told me to leave because I have about 113 awesome things to look forward to with someone I really like.
Most importantly, I have realized that I really do have a heart, so to speak--and it beats for someone special. So when in doubt, follow your heart (but not any other body part, particularly any located in more southern regions). It will more than likely lead you in the right direction.
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